When Adam Kopelman moved to Manhattan final 12 months after divorcing from his spouse of eight years he had one piece of furnishings: a sofa.
It was a superbly good sofa — good-looking, snug, good for sleeping on and nice for watching the sport. Still, Kopelman, 30, had a complete 700-square-foot condo to outfit and he had no thought the place to start.
“I met my ex-wife in college and, you know, every place we moved, she was always the person who designed it,” stated Kopelman, who works in authorized companies and has three kids.
Now, in his new place — a one-bedroom rental at One Manhattan Square subsequent to the Manhattan bridge (the place one-bedroom costs begin at simply over $1 million) — he was confronting the mysteries of the ornamental arts for the primary time.
“I didn’t really have a clue of what I needed,” he stated. “It was a little overwhelming.”
Help arrived through a tip from a single dad buddy, who had just lately confronted an identical enigma.
“I was telling him, ‘dude, I came here with a couch, I don’t know what to do,’ ” Kopelman stated. “And he was like, I’ve got the perfect person for you.”
That individual was designer Stacey Herman, the founding father of Stripe Street Studio, a house design firm that specializes in divorced dads.
Formerly an occasion producer and supervisor for outfits together with Vanity Fair and Elle Décor, Herman, 50, began an inside design firm, Fluid Design + Relocation, in 2015 that specialised in décor for personal houses and customized items for company purchasers. Last 12 months, she shifted focus, to assist clueless dudes get their acts collectively.
“It really started when a couple of divorced dads approached me [for design work],” Herman stated. “I took such a liking to it because I really felt like I was helping these dads and especially their kids, so it was more than just interior design work for me.”
Over the final 12 months, Herman has labored on greater than a dozen tasks for dads in spots together with New York, Chicago, Miami, Los Angeles and Washington DC. The designer splits her time between New York City and Tulsa, Okla.
“Setting up a functional, well-designed home,” is key for dads regaining their footing after a divorce, Herman stated, including that it “will benefit all other aspects of your life.”
Like many single fathers, Kopelman informed Herman that he would “sleep in the bathtub” as long as his kids had a pleasant place to remain and felt welcome. In his new condo that meant squeezing his daughters, ages 10 and eight, and his 5-year-old son right into a single house throughout their bi-weekly visits.
“It was really kind of important to utilize the space efficiently,” he stated, noting that Herman got here up with the plan to make all the things match, utilizing items like a pull-out mattress to get essentially the most out of the condo.
“She made a place in the closet for the kid’s stuff, she bought a piece for under the TV that I could keep their toys in,” he stated. “She set up a table where I could play games and do their homework with them. She really thought of everything.”
Herman additionally added enjoyable touches like a literal sweet bar with containers crammed with candies picked out by every of the youngsters.
Herman’s design stored him in thoughts, as nicely.
For occasion, she discovered a espresso kegerator for his chilly brew. For a private contact, she used Kopelman’s newbie cage-fighting interest as inspiration for his condo’s décor, framing his gloves and wrappings from his first struggle.
“I try to tell them, you know, you’re important,” she stated. “You need to lay your head down every evening and feel good and wake up every morning and feel like an adult and not like you’re sleeping on a mattress on the floor.”
But Herman didn’t simply beautify Kopelman’s condo, she systematized it, he stated.
“She made it very easy for me, like where everything goes down to the sheets, the towels, everything,” Kopelman stated. “She shows up, she puts everything together, your clothes are all nice in the closet, and you’re just like, great! She makes sure everything is systematic and organized and, you know, it’s just a matter of maintaining it at that point.”
So will he, as a person now left largely to his personal units, be capable to preserve it?
“Yeah,” he stated. “I mean, that’s the plan.”