On final evening’s (June 21) episode of The Bachelorette, Katie Thurston shined a light-weight on consent whereas sharing her experiences involving sexual assault. The new Bachelorette opened up about her previous throughout one in every of her group dates, starting the weak second by asking the boys to share their very own private tales, first. Once that they had shared the moments they weren’t happy with, Thurston spoke about her personal.
“What I’m gonna tell you, a lot of people actually don’t know, including my own mom,” Thurston stated. “I know you see me today as this very sex-positive woman who’s very confident, but she hasn’t always been here.”
That sex-positive outlook first debuted on TV together with her entrance on Matt James‘s season of The Bachelor. The contestant got here out of the limo with a vibrator, and Bachelor Nation shortly embraced her. But on The Bachelorette, Thurston revealed one other aspect of her persona.
“Ten years ago, it was New Year’s Eve, and I had been drinking, and I was involved in a situation where there wasn’t consent,” Thurston shared. “That is not something I wish upon anybody. I was in denial about what happened. So much so that I tried to form a relationship with him because I didn’t wanna believe what actually had happened.”
She went on to elucidate that this expertise affected her relationship with intercourse, which has modified the best way she behaves in relationships.
“And when that didn’t work out, for years, I had a very unhealthy relationship with sex,” Thurston stated. “I didn’t want to have sex, which affects the relationship. I didn’t like talking about sex. And it’s taken me a long time to get to where I am now in being open and comfortable talking about it and loving myself and accepting things that I can no longer control.”
The actuality TV persona continued, saying she’s come a good distance over the past decade. She stated she’s discovered the significance of consent and communication, and shared her perception on the state of affairs.
“How important it is to not guilt trip somebody for not having enough sex with them, guilt trip them for not having sex with them in general,” Thurston stated. “And so that is something that… really big that has happened in my life that in some ways has really shaped me to who exactly I am today.”
Concluding the section, Thurston affirmed that the dialog was obligatory, even when it had taken her a very long time to be snug with the subject.
“What I shared with the group today is something I never really talked about,” Thurston stated. “For a long time, I felt responsible for being too drunk, too irresponsible, too stupid. But it’s not my fault, because consent is important, and I did not give it that night.”
Fans supported Thurston, celebrating her candid dialog on social media. “Watching @katiethurston speak about being a survivor of sexual assault and the importance of consent is incredibly powerful,” wrote one Twitter consumer. “This is only the second time this has happened on this franchise.”
Thurston responded to her followers, sharing the web site for the National Sexual Assault Hotline and writing, “I love you all. Your support is felt tonight and I’m overwhelmed with emotions right now.”